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What to say when someone is being an asshole


“If I had known you would become pregnant, I wouldn’t have invested in your company.”

This is what an investor said to Michelle Crosby, Founder/CEO of WeVorce.

Her response: “What do you mean?”

Immediately the investor realized what he said and apologized for being an asshole.

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That was one of the interesting stories from the YC Female Founders conference I went to today.

An hour after leaving the conference, I hopped on a phone call for work. This guy was describing to me what a pain his new employees were, bickering with each other. He told them to “stop behaving like a bunch of women” and then kept rambling to me.

I stopped him and said: “So you said that your employees are behaving like a bunch of women. What do you mean?”

Immediately he apologized, said it was the wrong choice of words, and said he meant to say “stop behaving like a bunch of children.”

Haha. What a magic phrase: “What do you mean?”
Next time someone is being an asshole, try it out

6 Comments

  • I’m sorry but what’s wrong saying to men “stop behaving like a bunch of women” if they really do behave like this. And I mean here too much emotions and logics that men don’t always understand.

  • I LOVE THAT! I usually get stuck and then pissed off at assholes. But this is “real simple”.
    Awesome.
    Thanks.

  • I love this. It reminds me of a time when I was younger. Before I got braces my front teeth used to stick out of my mouth (like I had sucked my thumb but just a tongue disorder). I think I was in 4 th grade when every day getting on the bus a boy would mimic my teeth by having his teeth rest on his bottom lip.

    One day I asked him, ” What are you doing?” and he just stopped doing it.

    I guess I wasn’t aware that he was making fun of me and so wasn’t prepared to react a certain way.

    So, your post says something about a learned reaction to a negative comment.

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